I was thinking yesterday of the way that we choose to represent ourselves to others. How I choose to represent myself to others. Through the things I post on social media, what I wear, where I live, what I drive and even with what I write here I am painting a picture of who I am – or who I want to be.
I think it is natural. Everybody does it. Even the ones who pretend not to care. I think they do.
I care about what people think of me and how they see me. Growing older, I am more confident about who I am and I care less, but I still care.
Truth is I think that we think more of how others think of us that what they really do. We tend to transfer many of our own thoughts onto others. We think a lot about what others think. But maybe they don’t think so much as we think they do – or at least not of the things that we think!
“I can’t wear this again, I just wore it”, I think to myself sometimes. But when I try to remember what others wore, I normally can’t. Unless, it was something really nice that I would want to own myself.
“We are having guests over and the house is a mess!”, goes through my head quite often. I don’t check the level of tidiness when I visit others so probably they don’t really care (except for a very few, very tidy kind of people). In the end, it is about the company, right?
Placing too much emphasis on what we think that others think about us can make us use resources like both time and money on all the wrong things. So let’s try to let the thoughts go! Others don’t care so much as we think they do (and that is a good thing ;-))
And about how we present ourselves? Sometimes seeing the less perfect side of someone can be very refreshing and helpful. I will try to do that and invite you to do the same.